I've posted on my previous blog about the MBTI (Myers Briggs Type Indicator) assessment, a personality test of pretty sound standards and rather eerie results. Those of you who know me well might understand why I believe it is such an accurate measure when you read the following description. My comments are throughout :)
OH... and if you want links to the test and the descriptions, let me know!
The Giver
As an ENFJ, your primary mode of living is focused externally, where you deal with things according to how you feel about them, or how they fit into your personal value system. Your secondary mode is internal, where you take things in primarily via your intuition.
(That whole "according to how you feel about them..." thing is DEAD on...) ENFJs are people-focused individuals. They live in the world of people possibilities. More so than any other type, they have excellent people skills. They understand and care about people, and have a special talent for bringing out the best in others. ENFJ's main interest in life is giving love, support, and a good time to other people. They are focused on understanding, supporting, and encouraging others. They make things happen for people, and get their best personal satisfaction from this.
(This isn't true at all. I don't get pleasure from pouring into the lives of people, from supporting and loving, from spending time... oh wait.)Because ENFJ's people skills are so extraordinary, they have the ability to make people do exactly what they want them to do. They get under people's skins and get the reactions that they are seeking. ENFJ's motives are usually unselfish, but ENFJs who have developed less than ideally have been known to use their power over people to manipulate them.
(Okay, confession. I have been known to use said power EVERY SINGLE DAY in my classroom. Is it okay to manipulate in order to facilitate what is best for my students? Yeah, it's gonna happen...)ENFJ's are so externally focused that it's especially important for them to spend time alone. This can be difficult for some ENFJs, because they have the tendency to be hard on themselves and turn to dark thoughts when alone. Consequently, ENFJs might avoid being alone, and fill their lives with activities involving other people. ENFJs tend to define their life's direction and priorities according to other people's needs, and may not be aware of their own needs. It's natural to their personality type that they will tend to place other people's needs above their own, but they need to stay aware of their own needs so that they don't sacrifice themselves in their drive to help others.
(I've said a million times that I'm terrible at living by myself. I know that it is important for me to recharge by myself and reflect, but I quickly switch to those "dark thoughts" and self-critical tendencies when I'm by myself. And a million thanks to the people in my life who have helped me identify my own needs...)ENFJ's tend to be more reserved about exposing themselves than other extraverted types. Although they may have strongly-felt beliefs, they're likely to refrain from expressing them if doing so would interfere with bringing out the best in others. Because their strongest interest lies in being a catalyst of change in other people, they're likely to interact with others on their own level, in a chameleon-like manner, rather than as individuals.
(This is actually a characteristic I have been working on a lot lately. I obviously don't want to alienate those around me with my opinions, but I'm also done with changing the parts of my personality to suit those around me. So there.)Which is not to say that the ENFJ does not have opinions. ENFJs have definite values and opinions which they're able to express clearly and succinctly. These beliefs will be expressed as long as they're not too personal. ENFJ is in many ways expressive and open, but is more focused on being responsive and supportive of others. When faced with a conflict between a strongly-held value and serving another person's need, they are highly likely to value the other person's needs.
(Again, dead on.)The ENFJ may feel quite lonely even when surrounded by people. This feeling of aloneness may be exacerbated by the tendency to not reveal their true selves.
(Oh man. I was thinking the other day about the first time I experienced true loneliness- the summer that I worked at Cedar Point. Then I was thinking about how often I experience it now. It's because almost a second nature feeling. The pain has certainly numbed, but I would like this to stop being a thing quite soon.)People love ENFJs. They are fun to be with, and truly understand and love people. They are typically very straight-forward and honest. Usually ENFJs exude a lot of self-confidence, and have a great amount of ability to do many different things. They are generally bright, full of potential, energetic and fast-paced. They are usually good at anything which captures their interest.
(Well I don't want to brag TOO much, but I am rather fantastic. Haha... in all reality, I do find that people are drawn to me. It's rather fun and also exhausting at times... and makes for some incredible stories.)ENFJs like for things to be well-organized, and will work hard at maintaining structure and resolving ambiguity. They have a tendency to be fussy, especially with their home environments.
(HELLO, nerd girl.)In the work place, ENFJs do well in positions where they deal with people. They are naturals for the social committee. Their uncanny ability to understand people and say just what needs to be said to make them happy makes them naturals for counseling. They enjoy being the center of attention, and do very well in situations where they can inspire and lead others, such as teaching.
(What what? Yeah buddy. I've decided that after a long and full career in education I will become a counselor. For about a minute, after which I will get involved in retail politics. Ahh, life...) ENFJs do not like dealing with impersonal reasoning. They don't understand or appreciate its merit, and will be unhappy in situations where they're forced to deal with logic and facts without any connection to a human element. Living in the world of people possibilities, they enjoy their plans more than their achievements. They get excited about possibilities for the future, but may become easily bored and restless with the present.
(Um, yes. Who is the girl with the 10 step plan? Yup, me. Who cannot stop thinking about what's next rather than reflecting on what's happening? Yup, me.)ENFJs have a special gift with people, and are basically happy people when they can use that gift to help others. They get their best satisfaction from serving others. Their genuine interest in Humankind and their exceptional intuitive awareness of people makes them able to draw out even the most reserved individuals.
(Again, because I'm awesome. And there are always stubborn little reserved children...) ENFJs have a strong need for close, intimate relationships, and will put forth a lot of effort in creating and maintaining these relationships. They're very loyal and trustworthy once involved in a relationship.
(Some call it clingy... I call it being loyal and making an effort... :)An ENFJ who has not developed their Feeling side may have difficulty making good decisions, and may rely heavily on other people in decision-making processes. If they have not developed their Intuition, they may not be able to see possibilities, and will judge things too quickly based on established value systems or social rules, without really understanding the current situation. An ENFJ who has not found their place in the world is likely to be extremely sensitive to criticism, and to have the tendency to worry excessively and feel guilty. They are also likely to be very manipulative and controling with others.
(Let's see... relying heavily on other people... hmm. Nah, I guess my feeling side is developed enough. I suppose my intuition could be further developed, but I do believe that I'm getting better at this. I struggle a lot with my place in the world... I know what I WANT it to be, but that doesn't always happen in reality. I am ridiculously sensitive to criticism, I worry a ridiculous amount, and I can't think of one day in the last... lifetime... when I've not felt guilty for something. That manipulative thing I try to avoid outside of the classroom, but controlling is something I beat back daily with a stick...)In general, ENFJs are charming, warm, gracious, creative and diverse individuals with richly developed insights into what makes other people tick. This special ability to see growth potential in others combined with a genuine drive to help people makes the ENFJ a truly valued individual. As giving and caring as the ENFJ is, they need to remember to value their own needs as well as the needs of others.
(Well thanks.)
